Part 1:
So many of us are afraid to ADMIT we are depressed… No ladies this message is NOT just for us today! You see, my family member is in a mental institute for harming themselves and others.
And though I have been very distant in speaking of this matter, I have noticed so many questions you have asked me. Mostly about my family member, who we will name John!
Let me start off by giving you my experience of struggling with depression.
Example 1: After a long day at work, I go home to cook dinner, and while I cooking I feel a rush of emotions… I am talking about ALL emotions. Sad that I am making dinner for my 5 kids, but not the 2 boys I birthed and have been fighting for custody for 2 1/2 years.
Example 2: I am at work and some coworkers are talking about a subject and then all of a sudden I feel sick, because that subject would have my brain going a million miles ahead of what they are saying and it would bring me back to a time of trauma somehow.
Example 3: I can be doing my workouts, and by then end of the workout my head will be pounding from to much thinking. Overthinking why I have so much on my plate. Why do I continue to add more!
Now, those are some smaller things that go on, but it is a constant battle to stay on the “grind”.
Here is what I have learned, with therapy, working out, eating healthy, personal development and staying busy!
YOU HAVE TO TAKE A BREAK!! Our minds go a million miles per minute already, then add feeling like crap all the time?
I have put so much stress on myself to be the best mom, adoptive mom, wife, daughter, sister and employee that I forgot to even fill my tank back up!
You hear time and time again, right? Our tanks need to be refueled!! We need to take a break to regain our strength! I say BULL SHIT!!
If I spend to much down time to myself, I end up crying! So then, here is the question!
HOW DO WE HELP OURSELVES WITHOUT OVER STRESSING OUR BODIES?
Time management- its such a small phrase but with so many variables! So I will break down my day (no not week or month)!
I have 3 alarms for my morning routine: (Yes 3, if not I will be late everyday!)
4:30am, 4:45am & 5:00am (wake up on this one)
5:00am- get dressed, put a little make up and hair
5:30am- bring my sons clothes downstairs so he can get dressed when he wakes up with his daddy and get my lunch ready
6:00am- leave for work
6:35am- get to work, sit in my truck for 10 minutes and thank everyone that followed me on all social media (if you dont know already I am a coach and trying to build a business)
6:45am- go into work 45 minutes early to post, invite to coach opportunities, follow up
7:30am-8:00am- get front desk and kitchen ready for the meetings and the day (if you dont already know, I have a full time job)
8:00am-9:00am- greet everyone, send them to correct conference room, work on my blog(this), website, emails I want to send out, check my back office for my business and check in with my accountability group!
9:00am-11:30am- work
11:30am-12:30pm- reach out to potential coaches and challengers, get lunch ready for the meetings, set up all extras for work
12:30pm-1:30pm- my lunch- I do my workouts at work since we have a nice gym(but I do my program workouts 20-30 minutes)
1:30pm-3:00pm- work
3:00pm-4:00pm- clean from meetings, personal development podcast, and follow ups(for work)
4:00pm-4:30pm- clean conference rooms and kitchen
4:30pm-5:15pm- drive home(blare music as loud as my speaker will allow)
5:15pm-6:15pm- get dinner ready, sit with kids and hear about there day
6:15pm-7:00pm- get ready for team calls, challenger calls or potential coach calls
7:00pm-8:00pm- calls
8:00pm-9:00pm- get toddlers ready for bed, clothes out for the next day(including workout clothes
9:00pm- sleep
This is a lot of crap for one day! But you see, I am always on the go and doing something. So my body starts to shut down, even when my mind is on the go and wanting to “grind”.
How do was slow down for a second without damaging our success so far! Add 15 time slot for yourself a day. Start small, work your way up to a 5 day vacation(or whatever your goal is)
Depression isnt a constant feeling for me. It comes when I am at my best day of success and when my body is completely drained, then I hit rock bottom and I feel so drained I cant get back up!
Now, I do minor set backs to make sure I never hit rock bottom again!
I will get fastfood breakfast once every other week to make sure I dont eat out 5 days in a row and loose all my weight loss success.
I will sleep in every other week and come into work late, so I am keeping my mind fresh for all the other days i come in an hour early!
Take small steps to put you first!
Messy Mom Life 